Since the title basically gave it away, it will come as no surprise to you when I say : I’m pregnant!
I’m a little over halfway there, five and a half months to be exact.
The baby is really healthy so far.
I am having a hard time sleeping (someone is practicing their jabs, kicks, and somersaults), and experiencing all sorts of those normal, but still brutal, pregnancy pains.
It’s a boy!
We are, truly, thrilled. {here I am this morning. bump can not be hidden any longer!}
Now, onto why I was resisting telling you, even though though I knew you would all be so excited to know.
Here’s the thing: words truly can not describe the gift we have been given. We have one perfect son that we had to say goodbye to, and now we will, barring some horrible unforeseen circumstance, have another perfect child that we will get to actually raise and watch grow up. But pregnancy, babies, parenting, children… these are very tender spots in our hearts.
We long for Branch to be here, welcoming this new baby with us. With every good thing that happens with this baby, we are reminded of all we lost when Branch died, and how our family will not be whole again until we are in Heaven. We want this child to grow up knowing his brother, and have ideas of how we will do that in our family, but right now — while we wait to meet him – interacting with others who are on the outside can be hard.
When people say “Congratulations!” I feel weird. I know it’s good that they are congratulating me, and I am so grateful they are, but something stirs in my soul and makes me sad, too. You see, people didn’t congratulate me when I was pregnant with Branch. Some of these same people who are congratulating me now actually avoided me while I was carrying Branch and in the months after. I do not hold this against them, I really don’t, because it makes perfect sense. We each have our own capacities, and many lovely people who love me, just could not carry any of the weight of my grief : and that’s ok. But in my heart, this spot is tender.
It is a reminder that my first baby, who is just as much my son as this baby is, carries much sadness with his story. It is a reminder that some people, even though they love me, can not talk about Branch — even now. It is a reminder that pregnancy is tough for us. I think it’s tough for everyone, or so I hear, but I know it is particularly tough for those who have lost. It is a reminder of just how long, an unimaginable amount of time if I am being honest, we will have to wait to hold Branch again.
I sent Glenn a text this morning, telling him I was working on a post about being pregnant and why I didn’t want to tell the word-wide-web. I told him I felt like it all sounded kind of negative. I loved his response:
“You lost a baby. That’s just reality. You have to work through the negative thoughts to get to the positives.”
So wise, that Glenn. He’s also very encouraging, and fights for spiritual and emotional health above all else – something many people do not do. Through everything we have been through in our lifetimes, and particularly the past couple of years with losing Branch, I am most grateful for God’s mercy and love that has been expressed so clearly and personally to each of us. I am second-most grateful for Glenn. I could write a whole book on how great he is. Maybe someday I will. Though I am not sure if many people are interested in reading how great someone else’s husband is. I guess I’ll find out.
I feel like this post is coming to a close. I have said enough for one day. Opened the box, bared some more of my soul, which I think is what you all have come to expect here. After getting this part out, maybe I will start blogging all pregnancy related thoughts. Buckle up, internet, we’re in for quite a ride. My current obsession is baby boy swim trunks. Could those things be any cuter?!?!
Much love to each and every one of you. The ones I know and the ones I don’t. The ones who have been nudging me to post and the ones who have told me to hold it sacredly. And a special dose of love to those of you who are held in a special part of my heart – those who are in the middle of a story of child loss, those who have buried their children, and those who are pregnant with healthy babies after hoping for one for so long. I see you. God sees you. We are so, so loved.
Psalm 86:15 “But You. LORD, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.”
May we bask in His compassion and grace today.
~Kristin and BSquared
Congrats! That is great news! You’re such a proud mama of TWO baby boys now. I posted this version of 1 Peter 1:6 on my computer yesterday: “…be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead.”
Great post! Thank you for sharing it! Branch and baby #2 are both so blessed to have you and Glenn as parents. Hope to see you soon!! Our little ones can be friends. 🙂
Oh Kristin, it warms my heart to know that another sweet boy will get to experience the love that you and Glenn have to give. I’m so thankful to know you. I’ll be praying for all the change and emotion that comes with pregnancy and parenthood. You are surrounded by love, friend!
Kristen I always love hearing your heart speak the truth, through grief and joy. You have become such a beautiful woman. Thank you for allowing me to see your heart in true honesty.
Michelle.
About people not wanting to talk about Branch or congratulate you for his birth, I didn’t want anyone to come to the hospital for the birth of my rainbow if they didn’t come for Aubrey’s birth.
I am in tears reading this, I am so happy for you!! An extra special Happy Mother’s Day to you while you wait to meet your second son!!
You don’t know me, but I am loyal follower of your blog. I teach Child Development and came across your blog on accident while searching mommy blogs. You and your husband’s love for God, each other and your family warm my heart. I’m so excited for you during this time. Branch will never be forgotten and will make a huge impact on your new little guy….in ways you cannot even imagine! He is extremely lucky to have parents such as you two. I look forward to each post. I cried with many, but plan to cry with those coming- out of happiness. Please know you have people all over praying with and for your family! CONGRATS!!
OMG, I am so happy for you both. You are wonderful mom already and this will be proven. Congrats on baby #2, he is blessed as Branch was to have you as his mommy!
Branch’s little BROTHER! This is amazing, Kristin and this post warms my heart. I would totally read the Glenn book, too.